One Step Closer

So the last few weeks have been very crazy as the school year came to an end and we transitioned into summer. For some, things tend to calm down during the summer, but for me at church, it's been quite busy with preparing and doing Vacation Bible School, followed by patriotic services on July 3. Add to that new responsibilities at church, all the stuff we've had to do for our adoption, plus trying to prepare our home for a baby, and it's been quite a juggling act! I know I haven't done much in the way of updating this blog lately, so I asked Rachael if she would share with you all. Here it is: 

The last few weeks have been a roller coaster. We had our first home study visit on June 21^st. This visit was more of a “get to know you” with our caseworker.  She interviewed us together, and she did a walk-through of our home to make sure it was safe for a little one.  It went very well, and we eagerly anticipated our next visit.

On top of the Castillo de San Marcos

Between our first and second visits, David was very busy with Vacation Bible School at church, and I attended a teacher’s conference in Orlando that I have been wanting to attend for a couple years now.  When I came back home, David and I took a few days for a quick get-away in St. Augustine.  It was VERY hot, but we had a great time! It was perhaps the last vacation that we would have a chance to take before we bring our child home!  It was good to spend some time away just the two of us and reconnect with each other.  We are so grateful to David’s parents for helping us make that get-away happen! Thanks, Mom and Dad!

Our view of the fireworks in St. Augustine

While we were in St. Augustine, our caseworker called us to schedule our next home study visit.  It was scheduled for the day after we returned from vacation! Yikes! This visit was the second of three visits and also the LONGEST one, where she interviewed us separately for about 2 hours each.  If the first visit was a “get to know you” visit, this visit was a “REALLY get to know you” visit!  We knew that these questions could be very personal, and for two people who are very much introverts and who don’t like to talk about themselves or their personal lives much, this was very intimidating for us.

So, we had our second home study visit this past Thursday.  David and I couldn’t be in the same room as each other during these interviews, so I met with our caseworker first while David was at work.  David came home on his lunch break for his interview.  We both agreed that the questions were not nearly as invasive as we were told they would be.  Think of it more as telling your life story.  Where were you born?  What schools did you go to?  Who were some people who were influential in your life growing up?  What traditions did you have growing up? What were family vacations like? Where did you go to college and what did you study? How did the two of you meet?  How did David propose? (That was my favorite story to tell!)  What is the rest of your family like? What are your strengths and weaknesses as a couple? On and on it goes...

A lot of the questions asked gives insight into how we will parent our child.  How we were disciplined as children can influence how we will discipline our child.  The values and beliefs that we were raised with will influence the values and beliefs that we teach our child.  As nervous as we were leading up to this second visit, God gave us a lot of peace during the interviews, and we both felt that they went much better than we had anticipated! We know there were a lot of you all who were praying for us, and we really appreciated that during our interviews. 

We still have one more home study visit to go.  We were told that we should be done with the home study before the end of July.  In the meantime, David and I have several things that we still have to take care of.  We have some “homework” that needs to be completed, which includes some required reading and writing summaries of what we’ve learned – almost like short book reports!  We will also be taking a “Newborn Care” class at the hospital next Tuesday night.  This is also required by our adoption agency. 

David and I are also in the process of putting together our “profile book.”  This will be a book that our agency will have and share with expectant mothers/parents around the state (and possibly the country). It introduces the expectant mothers and fathers to us, and tells all about us, our families and friends, our home and community, and essentially shares why we think we would make good parents for their child in the hopes that they will choose us to parent their child. It’s kind of strange putting this together – like trying to market yourselves as parents.

It is so exciting to see how God is providing for us during this time!  Currently, we are less than $10,000 away from reaching our fundraising goal!  A large chunk of the adoption fees are due when our home study is completed.  The great thing is….we have EXACTLY what we need (and I mean down to the penny!) to make the next payment!  God is so good!  He provides everything we need in HIS timing!  The rest of the fees, which is another large chunk, will be due when we bring our child home.  We are continuing to raise funds through our blog (PayPal) and through GoFundMe.  Please consider sharing our story and those links with others through social media to help us spread the word about our adoption and to help us raise the remainder of our funds. Our GoFundMe address is gofundme.com/halladoption and our blog site is hallfamilyadoption.blogspot.com.

So many of you have allowed God to use you to be a blessing to us as we raise the necessary funds to bring our child home.  “Thank you” is not adequate to express how very grateful we are to each of you.  None of this would be possible without your generosity!  David and I so appreciate the love and support that we have received from you all.  Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!  We love you all!  Please continue to pray for us and encourage us as we anticipate bringing our child home!

Home Study & New Shirts Update

Exciting news! Yesterday we got word that our paperwork from DCF came back! BCS has cleared us to move on to the next phase in our adoption - our home study! Admittedly, it's a bit nerve-wracking to think about. We could really use some prayer from those of you reading this post that each meeting will go well and not be too stressful. We're told that once they are scheduled, we'll be assigned a case worker who will visit our home 3-4 times to inspect and interview us. As we understand it, they get VERY personal with you during that time!

The other piece of exciting news is that our shirts have come in! If you have ordered a shirt from us, we'll do our best to get it to you as quickly as possible. When you get yours, please be sure to take a photo of yourself (and any other family or friends) wearing your shirts and share those photos with us! We want to remember all of those who helped support us in our journey to adopt and to be able to show your picture our child one day! Again, we thank you so much for all your support and prayers!

Fun with Family & Friends

Not much to share on the adoption front at this time. We're still waiting from some paperwork to come back from DCF and clear us with Bethany so we can move forward with scheduling our home study. We were told this can take 3-4 weeks to come back. Hopefully we'll hear something this week or next.

In the meantime...

On Monday, we got to spend some time with family in Merritt Island for the Memorial Day holiday. Our nieces and nephews (7 of them) had fun swimming in the pool. Dad did burgers on the grill, while Mom cooked some super good corn on the cob, and my sister, Michelle, made an incredible cobbler from fresh picked blueberries they all picked at a farm in Mims! Rachael's parents also drove over for lunch, and some of us played our traditional game of Shanghai when it began to rain.

As part of this exciting occasion, we got a crib! My sister still had one from when her children were little and was willing to give it to us! Such a blessing! And because Rachael's parents have a van large enough to transport it, they were willing to take it with them and will bring it to us next weekend. So there's something to look forward to!

On Tuesday, we drove to Orlando and spent a bit of time visiting with my grandparents, before coming back home.

This evening, we had a pot luck dinner with our community group at church and had a fun time talking with everyone. Some of those in our group are pretty new parents and we had fun taking turns holding and feeding some of the babies present. I think it was my first time trying to eat and hold a baby at the same time! Good practice for me! We managed to snap a quick photo of the group as everyone was leaving, but missed a few members. Perhaps when we all come back from our summer hiatus we'll try to take a new photo.

Adopt(ed) Shirts Update

Our Adopt(ed) T-Shirt sale has ended! We sold just over 30 shirts! Just wanted to say THANK YOU to all who purchased a shirt to help support us! If you missed the chance to order, we may possibly do another sale at a latter date if there is enough interest. We are also still taking orders for the necklaces and accepting donations though Paypal and GoFundMe.

T-Shirt Sale Ends Today!

Just a friendly reminder... our Adopt(ed) T-Shirt sale ends TODAY! If you'd like to help us out and show your support, please place your orders before the end of the day (Friday, May 20th). Orders will be sent out on Monday and should be available for pickup or delivery by the first week of June. If you have questions, please let us know! Thanks so much for your support!

Completed Paperwork Mailed Today!

So exciting! Last night, Rachael and I FINALLY completed all of our paperwork needed before we can begin the Home Study! It was a lot of work, involving multiple background checks, drug screenings, blood work and doctor visits, insurance checks, our wills taken care of, questionnaires, and a host of other papers needing signatures requiring a witness or notary! Phew! So glad that is done!! It's now in the mail and on its way to Bethany in Winter Garden! After they've had a chance to go through it all, they'll contact us to schedule for our first of 3-4 home study visits. We're probably looking at mid-summer before all of that is complete, but once it is, we'll be a "waiting family!"

This Year Is Different!

Mother’s Day. It’s not always easy for us to celebrate this day. It comes with a number of mixed emotions. Certainly, Rachael and I can rejoice and be thankful for the women in our lives who birthed us, cared for us, helped us to grow and to learn, and to become the adults that we are today. They’ve been by our side guiding us along the way, year after precious year, nurturing us in only the way a mother can. We’ve laughed together, cried together, had a number of good times, and a few not so good. There have been times where we’ve argued and we were not the most obedient. But through it all, we had our mother’s love. 

I wouldn’t trade my upbringing for anything. It’s because of our parents and their love for us, that Rachael and I have come to desire so much to be parents ourselves. But after seven years of being married and praying for God’s blessing in our lives to become parents, we are still childless. 

This day, Mother’s Day, has not always been easy for us to be happy about or to look forward to. There is recognition and celebration everywhere for the mothers who are, the mothers that are not with us anymore, and even the expectant mothers who are pregnant. But this holiday rarely recognizes the women who haven’t crossed that line - the women who want to be a “mom” so badly, but haven’t had that opportunity yet for whatever reason. 

With this holiday comes cards that are given, special church services, and commercials on TV that talk all about how great being a mom is and how it’s all worth it. (Father’s Day can have a similar effect, even if not quite as intense.) But every little part of this day that stands to serve as a celebration of motherhood, is also reminder to my wife and I that we are not a part of “the club” - that we don’t know what it’s like to experience parenthood and there is a fear that we never will.

Yesterday, Rachael found a card in the mail. It was the first Mother’s Day card she’s ever gotten that actually referred to her as a “mom!” She loved it and it brought a joyful tear to her eye! It was so thoughtful, and I am so grateful that she was given this card in recognition of our status as soon to be parents! Here’s what Rachael had to say about it: 

Mother's Day is one of those days that is hard for me to express how I feel. I love celebrating my own mother, and honoring her for all she is to me, but it's always a reminder that so many have what I desperately want. But this year is different. This year, we have a hope that we will soon have a child of our own. And today, when I went out to the mailbox, I found my very first Mother's Day card, sent to me from my sweet brother and sister-in-love. Thank you, Nathan Hamler and Nicole Hamler! You have made my weekend! 

It’s not been an easy journey for us. But this year, we don’t have to fear! We just have to trust! We know God is working His plan for us, even if we didn’t always see it! Adoption was always the plan He was working for us to build and grow our family! It’s because of that, that we have hope that we’ll soon be parents! We are SO looking forward to it, and can’t wait to meet our child! We pray and hope that next Mother’s Day, we’ll be spending the day with our son or daughter!